All Things Woompty

So mad, so very, very mad

I called an old friend tonight, one who I hadn't heard from in a while. K is someone I have had this very complicted, antagonistic relationship with since we met when we were 18. Long, complicated story that I think I've gone over before so it's not going to be repeated again here. Anyway....

He hadn't responded to the email I sent out about the egnagement, which surpriosed me. I figured he would at least have some sort of smart ass comment about it since he's been ardently anti-matrimony for as long as I can remember. So I called and we were talking and while it started off as playful teasing, somewhere along the way the conversation devolved into him telling me I was insane for thinking that Kevin and I might actually have a successful, happy marriage and me telling him he's overly cynical and living a chickenshit life since he said I should be "trying to preserve the status quo" since I'm happy now. Mind you, all this crap he was spewing came from a guy who hasn't even MET Kevin so he has literally zero clue about what our relationship is like. It was also coming from a guy who got burned by a former live in girlfriend, which means that I take every damn thing he says about realtionships with a huge grain of salt.

And then he actually had the nerve to say "Well if you're not having kids what's the point of being married?" Gah. he just...really irritated me, with his complete inability to consider the fact marriage can actually be a really good thing. And I feel sorry for him, because I don't know if he will ever get to feel this way himself. I don't know if he'll ever let himself feel this way.

What hurt the most was hearing him laugh at me getting angry. It just made me angrier, and by the time I hung up, I had realized one important thing: I do not need to make any effort to stay in touch with him anymore. He just drains my energy. And I sure as hell am taking him off the guest list as soon as I finish this entry, because the last thing I want at my wedding is someone I considered a friend sitting there scoffing at how "insane" I am for getting married.

Fuck. That. Shit.

posted by Melinda @ 9:00 PM